My life is perfect! ✘
My currect situation is desirable! ✘
I am work in progress! ✔︎
I need life-auditing! ✔︎
There is nothing wrong with me, I am perfectly fine! ✘
I am totally human! ✔︎
I look at others life or situation as something more serious than my own situation! ✘
These questions were inspired by the conversation we have awhile ago on the way home. Regarding this mother-daughter situation where the daughter always looks fancy and buys expensive clothes while she never give to her mom. Then on my way home, there was an idea / “other sense” that passed through telling me and asking me that, “Claire you talked about these people like your life is perfect! Like your situation is desirable and nothing wrong with it! You talked about them like they are not talking about you and your situation as well when you are not around.”
Wow! It was really humiliating and demoralizing. I totally agree! Why can’t I just shut my mouth and mind my own business? I have my own issues in life to deal with?! I am no perfect at all (well, I never said I am)! It is just this human nature in which we are all far-sighted, we can be able to see the flaws and what’s wrong with the situation of others like there is nothing wrong with our situation. There was this verse in the Bible where it says, “For if anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself.” (Galatians 6:3 NASB).
I am guilty as charged! And mind you it takes gut to admit that you are wrong. And I thank that moment when the “other sense” just talked to me like that and told stuff that I sometimes don’t realize and make me realize. But of course , don’t just stop with realization, it should be topped with action as well. When there is a circumstance like that, you change your way of thinking about others. You change yourself from becoming hypocrite. You improve and be transformed from being “others-evaluator” to “self-evaluator”.
Psalm 139:1 (NASB) says, “O Lord, You have searched me and known me.” HE (GOD) only knows who we are; our thoughts, our circumstances, what we are undergoing through, our difficulties, our goings and comings, our everything. So who I am I to judge or evaluate others situation or circumstances, right? My job is to love, to show compassion, to care, to encourage, etc. Anyway, Romans 8:28 (NASB) says, “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”
Maybe their situation is how GOD deals with them to their way to maturity. Maybe GOD is allowing their situation to draw them closer to HIM and become dependent to HIM that without HIM we are nothing or we can do nothing. Why would I assume that GOD gave me the task of checking other’s life? My life is not perfect at all! It has flaws here and there and who knows that is how HE deals with me also to know that I am such a wretched woman who needs saving daily, who needs GOD’s grace and mercy daily. I am not at all entitled to give any opinion about other’s life or choices in life. I have no right!
And that I am thankful indeed for this “other sense” checking on me to evaluate myself and what’s wrong with how I view others.